How to Level Up When it Matters Most….Part 1

There is no time like the present to level up. What do I mean when I say that? Now is the time for you to be clear on who you are in 2023. This is not the time to show up like someone else but be your authentic self. Be who God has called you to be. I don’t know about you, but at times I feel such an overload of information coming into my personal space. There has been such an increase in emails, advertisement, sales pitches, and commercials that all promise me how I can make more money. How I can attract more clients. How I can build and scale my business to six figures. How I can attract sponsors and partners, and how I can live my dreams by just taking a workshop, investing in a book, paying for a webinar, and/or attending a conference. Don’t get me wrong I think it’s great that people are ready to share information and use that information to help others. I think it’s great that people are not holding back what it took for them to get to their next level.

However, I am convinced that this is a season and a time to level up on what God has called you to do. It is imperative for you to know who you are in this year 2023! Just because someone is joining a venture does not mean you have to be a part of their team. Just because someone is sharing with you how they are investing in a company or a new project that they are working on does not necessarily mean you have to say yes to those objectives as well. Stay true to YOUR God given identity! Remember, YOUR gifts will make room for you! (Proverbs 18:16)

To be honest there were times where I got caught in that cycle and circle of jumping on this idea, and prematurely investing in another without truly asking myself two to three very important questions. Number one have I consulted with God? Number two, does this new project, investment, or initiative align with my purpose, and number three, what is my why? Why am I considering taking on a new assignment or task? Why am I considering making the financial investment into a certain project? What is my why?

It is very imperative that you ask yourself those questions as you move forward in life because at some point pivoting gets old. It’s okay to pivot at times because there are seasons where you may need to rebrand or recalibrate. However, pivoting should not be the norm. When and if you decide to pivot regarding your life, business, or ministry, it really should align with the principle of supply and demand, seed time and harvest, or with the changes in the industry in which you serve. I want to challenge you! Don’t pivot based on an idea, but pivot based on alignment. Does it make sense for you to rotate or shift something if it is not in alignment with your purpose? The answer is no. Even if pivoting might cause a burst of financial increase, I still say do not do it if its out of alignment with God’s intended created purpose for your life. Remember, God’s purpose is that we not only bring forth fruit but that our fruit should remain. (John 15:16)

The other thing I want to challenge you to do as you process what it means to level up, is decreasing your output and increasing your input. It is hard to level up when you have not disciplined your lifestyle to respect patience and time. I listened to a video a few months ago from Bishop T.D. Jakes and he talked about how patience is respect. He talked about how good things, really really good things, come when you give it time. You cannot level up with a microwave mentality. We cannot look at our lives in the same way in which we may desire our food. It’s great to come home sometimes from a long day and have the option to use or utilize a microwave to reheat dinner, or cook a frozen meal, but remember a microwave can also sometimes heat your food unevenly.

That means as convenient as it is, it’s not always beneficial. As convenient as it is, when your food is not cooked well, it is not desirable. If you have a microwave mentality when it comes to your life, when it comes to building your relationship with God, when it comes to your response from affliction and tribulation there is a good chance that you may miss some valuable lessons. There is a good chance of having uneven traits and behaviors of immaturity that ultimately will not give you an advantage.

Finally, to level up when it matters most, we must respect time. Some people have no respect for time. Some people are even oblivious to the amount of time they spend on things that are NOT making a difference in their lives. I know some may cringe when I say this, but the amount of time that we are on social media and watching TV is really scary. There should be some things in your life that are not negotiable when it comes to your input, meaning your growth and your development (spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially) as a God-fearing Christian.

That is not to say that you may have days where you miss the mark, we all do but there must be a standard. What is your standard? I personally believe people make time for what they want to make time for, and if you are going to level up when it matters most, you must respect time. What is time telling you to do right now? Is it telling you to rest? Is it telling you to go back to school? Is it telling you to write the book? Is it telling you to start the business? Is it telling you to be still? Is it telling you to wait? Is it telling you to spend a certain amount of quality time with God and your family? Is it telling you to be more dedicated and growing your relationship with God and your family? Is it telling you to go to the doctors? I personally deal sometimes with procrastination and laziness, but what I have come to understand is that they do not respect time! In this year 2023, work on areas in your life, little by little, day by day that will challenge you to be more respectful of time, choices, and decisions.

Let us recap part one as we begin this beautiful journey of leveling up when it matters most. The first thing to remember is we will not say yes or commit to anyone or anything until we have consulted with God first. Some of you may say, “Well, what if I prayed and asked God for directions and answers, and I don’t hear anything?” I will tell you a word of wisdom that my spiritual mother, Elder Joylette Hillard tells me all the time, “Sometimes silence is an answer.” Secondly, we will only pivot if it aligns with our purpose. We are no longer going to pivot based on good ideas, or influence. Third, we are going to discipline our lifestyles in such a way that we have respect for patience and time. We will set healthy boundaries, and let our yes be yes and our no be no. (Matthew 5:37)

I hope you enjoyed part one of our series. Next month we will continue to discover tangible ways on how to level up when it matters most. This is your year! This is our year! I am so grateful that good news located you today. No matter the scars, no matter the hurt, no matter the disappointment or the pain, it’s time to level up when it matters most! Stay true to YOUR God given identity!

Live Life on The Promise of IMPACT!

Min. Carenda Deonne – www.carendadeonne.com

What Has He Done For You Lately?!?

In 1986 I was the tender age of six years old, but I absolutely remember the hit song by Janet Jackson entitled, “What Have You Done for Me Lately.” I know many of you remember that song. It was off her album, Control. In this song, she is expressing her disappointment for not being treated the way in which she feels she deserves. She feels neglected, and unappreciated. It is a song that many of us can dance to, but when you listen to the words, Janet is not in the mood for dancing.

Aren’t you glad that when we think about that song as it relates to what God has done for us, we can dance and sing different lyrics? Lyrics that speak to his great grace, mercy, love, and faithfulness towards us. So, let me ask you, what has God done for you lately? And because He has been so good, let me add, “Ooh, ooh, ooh, yeah!” Our God is so good that we do not have to think of it from a position of yesterday, or last week or last month. What has God done for you lately means in this very moment, breath, and season of your life.

Get out of that pity party and get your dance on. Our God is faithful, and for some of you, He is doing a NEW thing in your life. You are literally springing forward and upward. Has he given you restoration, healing, and/or hope? Has he accelerated somethings that man cannot take credit for if he tried? Oh, my sisters and my brothers, what has God done for you lately?” Janet Jackson sings more about what someone use to do, but we can sing more about what God continues to do. I trust and believe that despite whatever situation and circumstance you are going through, God continues to show up for you. Even when it does not feel good, all things are working together for your good.

I want to challenge you to start a monthly brag book. Let me tell you its okay, to BRAG on God. Its okay to get so overwhelmed with joy that you cannot keep it to yourself. Its okay to let the world know that the God you serve continues to perfect those things that concern you. (Psalm 138:8) Please do not fret or give up in this season in your life. I trust and believe that you have so much to be grateful for.

When you BRAG on God, it takes the focus off man. When you BRAG on God, it takes the focus off your emotions. When you BRAG on God, it humbles you. When you BRAG on God, it eliminates pride. When you BRAG on God, He can use you. When you BRAG on God, He will exalt you. When you BRAG on God, He can surprise you. When you BRAG on God, you strengthen the weak. When you BRAG on God, you are a witness to the lost. When you BRAG on God, He inhabits your praise! If you have not already, this is a great time to start your BRAG book. As we enter a new season and the second quarter of 2023, shake the dust off your feet. Let me say that again, “Shake the dust off your feet!” You have not forgotten how to dance. You have not forgotten from whence all your help comes from. You have not forgotten the one who created you and formed you in your mother’s womb! Its time to BRAG on God. If you do not, the birds will. Just take time to listen to them in the morning. Trust me, they are bragging all day long. Stop looking for God to only bless you one way, or to bless you like he did someone else. If that is His choice, so be it. However, we serve a God that may send a dove, or a raven! Nevertheless, you got fed! The Lord either provided the confirmation you needed or gave you strength for your journey ahead. I just need to know, what has God done for you lately? Its time to BRAG on Him.

Live Life on The Promise of IMPACT!

Min. Carenda Deonne

REWIND….Turning Negativity into Your Greatest Momentum….

Last year or so, I started releasing messages on how to turn negativity into your greatest momentum. I wanted women to know that ALL things work together for your good, even those things we consider and even can attest to as negative experiences. I started asking women, how do you define the word negativity? Do you think all negativity is bad? Do you feel that negativity holds no weight or purpose? Have you ever thought about how negativity can work in your favor?

Have you experienced something even in this first quarter of 2023 that was a negative thought or experience? I don’t know about you, but I have. I am going through something right now that only the great grace of God can keep me from staying in a negative state of mind. The word negativity is defined as the expression of criticism of or pessimism about something. Even as women, there are times when we tend to see the worst aspect of things or lack hope or confidence in the future. Experiencing negativity can cause us to be disappointed, but it also can fuel us to do something different. Let me say that again, I do believe that there are times where a negative experience or situation will really show you what’s in you; what you are made of, and what really matters to you. It can motivate us to take that risk. It can challenge us to go after our heart’s desires.

Don’t allow negativity to weed you out. Instead allow it to produce a due time harvest. Ladies, it’s time to turn those weeds into seeds! In this year 2023, everything you go through and encounter counts towards your destiny. If you think for one moment, that the negative experience you are going through is getting ready to block your progress, absolutely not. I am bold enough to believe it will not only make you stronger but EXPAND you in God’s prepared plan for your life. Let’s look at the definition of a weed. A weed is defined as a plant that is not valued where it is growing and is usually of vigorous growth. Especially one that tends to overgrow or choke our more desirable plants. Now, let’s look at the definition of a seed. Seed is defined as a source of development or growth. Whatever people say you can’t do, let it mature you. Let whatever you think you can’t do be the very thing that inspires you. It is unrealistic to think you can do everything but it’s realistic to know that you can do something’s well! As you turn negativity into your greatest momentum, remember it’s imperative that you remain your authentic self.

This is a time and place in your life where you cannot afford to be stagnant. You are at a place in your life that you have so much more working for you than against you. When something is said negatively about you or your purpose, believe that God is changing every insult into results. I speak a declaration daily professing that every, and I mean every insult will turn into results. The God that I trust in is my warmaker, pathfinder and sand writer. Even if my accusers say, “stone her”, the Lord will just stoop down and recreate the plan. And before its all over, those that are quick to point the finger and say what you are not deserving of, won’t be able to throw one stone. As a matter of fact when God brings you into that place of restoration, the Lord will inquire where did your accusers go? Don’t let anyone or anything hinder your progress. Fear no man, but God! Stop cheating yourself. Stop choking the good stuff; even if you have to work your way through the bad stuff to get there. “Don’t let the good stuff you have die with you” as Les Brown says, but seed it, water it, and be fruitful. I know some people may think you don’t deserve your success; you personally may also struggle with enjoying the fruits of your labor. However, I am saying to you in my most assertive voice, YOU DESERVE IT!

Life is not always easy, but thanks be unto God who gives us the victory. (1 Corinthians 15:57) You can not see negativity as your final destination. Instead, you must see it as lessons learned, increased faith, and a vitamin called momentum, that just won’t quit. Moving forward, anytime negativity desires to raise its head, I need you to take a dose of momentum. The refills on this prescription to heal you from negativity is limitless. Take a daily dose once, twice three times a day in between your prayers, meditation and praise and watch God turn negativity into your greatest momentum! We will get through this. Take courage.

Carenda Deonne

Speaker/Author/Minister/Life Coach

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A Special Thank You to Bishop Dwayne C. Debnam

There are times in your life when you just don’t understand why you are going through what you are going through. There are times you feel isolated, alone, and heavy in heart. There are times when people can do all that they can to encourage you, but there are just some battles you must go through. There are times when you ask yourself, why? There are times when you just want an answer to the weight of the pain. There are times when it feels like the cycle of disappointment never breaks. Have you ever been there? Have you ever thought to yourself, I am tired of being tired?

I know what it feels like to be in that place. I know what it feels like to be in a place where instead of settlement you feel that you are now in a place of survival. I know what it feels like to fight against shame, anger, and disappointment. I know what it feels like to be misunderstood. I know what it feels like to have people talk about you at their dinner table trying to figure out why you are going through what you are going through, once again. I want you to be encouraged. I promise you that God is with you. He is faithful to us. He will send a message, a song, a devotional, and resources to help pull you up.

Even as I write to encourage you, I am also encouraging myself. As I go through my own storm, I was so encouraged by a message that Bishop Debnam preached at Morning Star Baptist Church, in Baltimore, MD a few Sundays ago. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had just finished watching my church service online and I proceeded to get dressed and go to the gym. As I was lacing up my shoes with anticipation to hit the treadmill, my dad, Jerry Pittman, called me and said, “I need you to listen to the sermon Bishop Debnam preached today. I was thinking about you and what you are going through, and it felt that he had a personal conversation with you; that he knew exactly what you were dealing with, and I believe his message was purposed for you.” He continued to say, “I am speechless, but you must listen to this message.” I immediately stopped in my tracks, un-laced my shoes and proceeded to watch the 11:30am service.

From the start of the service, I felt lighter in my spirit. The praise and worship was great! The anticipation grew as it was time to hear the word. The scripture was 2 Corinthians 11:24-29, and the title of his message was, “You Just Don’t Know.” He talked about how people just don’t know your story. How people just don’t know your dents, discouragements, and success that has gotten you where you are today. How people just don’t know what it takes for you to be you. People just don’t know the weight, pain, grief, and circumstances that has taken place in your life.

People just don’t know the spiritual warfare, generational curses, and other circumstances that you must deal with daily. He talked about the pain of being misunderstood. He said so many powerful things in his message, but two specifically were, “Don’t allow people to put a ceiling on your future.” He also went on to say that your scars have taught you who God is.” WOW, I promise you I cried the entire sermon.

The church of Corinth was coming after Paul as if he was not good enough or qualified in his purpose in God. Paul had to tell his testimony! He did that in 2 Corinthians 11:24-29. Check out Paul’s testimony.

²⁴Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. ²⁵Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with stones, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, ²⁶I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. ²⁷I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked. ²⁸Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches. ²⁹Who is weak, and I do not feel weak? Who is led into sin, and I do not inwardly burn?

Even in all of that, Paul made it out! He stood flat footed in the confidence of Christ and never wavered that he had been chosen for such a time as this. I don’t know your story, but I know you have one. I don’t know your pain, but I know its not easy. I don’t know your affliction, but I know that God loves you! I don’t know your situation, but I know the Lord will provide a way of escape. He will rescue you. That day, I physically could not make it to the alter call that Bishop Debnam announced. However, I made an alter right in my home and I released my burdens and casted all my cares on the Lord. Bishop Debnam’s sermon points were, you don’t quit, your problems are preparing you for promotion, and you made it out.

Just as the governor was attempting to arrest Paul, he was lowered in a basket from a window in the wall and slipped through the governor’s hands.

³²In Damascus the governor under King Aretas had the city of the Damascenes guarded in order to arrest me. ³³But I was lowered in a basket from a window in the wall and slipped through his hands.

Trust me! God has us. We may not know when He will do it, how He will do it and who He will use in the process, but we will get through this! Remember, you are not alone! The Lord loves us too much to leave us, and his love never fails. I believe with everything within me 2023 is our year of defining moments! We will testify in Jesus Name! Thank you, Bishop Dwayne C. Debnam! Your message was heaven sent!

Live Life on the Promise of IMPACT!

Min. Carenda Deonne

Speaker/Author/TV Personality/Certified Stress Management Coach

www.stresseasyllc.com

Welcome 2023- What does this New Year Mean to You?

Happy New Year! Thanks be unto God for His Great Grace. We have crossed over into 2023. If I may ask, what does that mean to you? For some, you are excited to set new year resolutions, for others you continue traditions such as cooking collards and black-eyed peas. Regardless of your old or new traditions, I hope you take time to hear what God wants to share with you specifically this new year! His message to you is personal and pertinent.

Maybe the Lord is expanding you this year. Maybe He is challenging you to walk on water. I do feel 2023 will be different regarding your level of faith and commitment regarding your goals and ambitions. The shifting in this New Year is one that will take maturity and intimacy with God. As you are making your goals, vision boards, and affirmation statements, don’t forget that spending time with God daily must be etched into your heart, mind, and daily living.

I heard a sermon from Bishop Jakes not long ago entitled, “Timing is Everything.” Do you believe that? It says is Ecclesiastes 3:1 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens; a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plan and a time to uproot.” If you read down to verse 11, you will see one of my favorite scriptures that says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time.”

I do believe for me that in 2023 timing is everything! I also believe that in this year God is strategically bringing all things together beautifully. Regardless of the season, there is beauty. Regardless of the season, God’s creating a masterpiece. I am personally wired to go after my goals and ambitions. You will not find me sitting in a corner twirling my hair, hoping that an opportunity will come to me. I am relentless when it comes to determination. However, even though I possess admirable skills, talents, and behaviors, on the flip side I can also become impatient, and frustrated when things don’t happen on my watch. In this New Year, I must trust and celebrate the strategy and timing of God. That means no matter what is looks like, or what I think it should look like, gratitude will be my foundation.

It is also important for me to have a thematic scripture verse as it relates to what God is doing in my life each year. I will hold fast to Ecclesiastes 3:11 that states once again, “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” What is your thematic scripture for the year? Once you have it, hold fast to it. Commit it to memory. Let it be nourishment, energy, and strength for your mind, body and spirit. Incorporate it as part of your prayer life and post it in your prayer closet. Trust me, whatever God is speaking to you specifically regarding this New Year, it is a serious matter.

Remember, timing is everything. There is a reason God would have you to read this message. Don’t let go until He reveals the details. In addition to your thematic scripture for this New Year, you also want to keep a “Brag Book!” close by. Listen, the Lord inhabits our praises of His people. Don’t hold back bragging on God, get ready to write details and testimonies on His goodness and faithfulness towards you. Capture ALL God moments, as He brings them into fruition for you in this New Year!

I don’t know about you, but I am excited! Don’t cross your arms, pout your lips, or complain because you are still stuck on something from 2022. Listen, 2022 is over. What is God saying to you today in 2023? Hold fast to the scripture He gives you. Get your brag book ready and let’s make history this year!

Happy New Year!

Min. Carenda Deonne Beamon

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10 Scriptures to Comfort Those Who are Grieving This Holiday Season…

Is your heart heavy this holiday season do to pain, sickness, or death of your loved one? Is it draining for you to be around others, or go to family gatherings because the empty chair is too hard to bear? For some of us, the holidays are one of the most difficult times of the year. Many of us are not only facing isolation and hardship, but also experiencing grief. I know the retail stores are filled with Christmas music, glitter, and bows, but for some of us it feels like ground zero. It takes everything in us to shop for gifts, take holiday photos, and buy “season greetings” cards. The holidays are just not the same anymore. We learn to condition ourselves back to normalcy but that doesn’t mean everything feels good on the inside. For many of us, we truly miss the smile, the voice, and the presence of our loved ones. As a Christian believer, how do we find joy in the reality of our pain?

What do you do when you don’t feel very Merry, and the cliché of Happy New Year makes your stomach uneasy? How do you handle the stress of grief and all the emotions that come along with it? I know my message to you this month should have more of a jolly feel, but my spirit tells me many are hurting and are feeling the weight of discouragement and despair. I recently had a coaching session with a client, and I asked her to draw a picture of how she is feeling emotionally due to stress. She drew a picture of steps that were going upward but she said the downward arrow represented her feelings of not going in the right direction. Wow, you see the steps in front of you, but you feel you are going downward instead of upward. After we discussed all the items she drew on that paper, sone good and some not so good, she said, “One thing I do feel is hopeful.” As a Christian believer, no matter how heavy your heart might be during this season, do not lose HOPE!

The bible says in Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” It is my sincere prayer that you receive the Lord’s comfort in this season. To receive His comfort means that you are willing to be vulnerable unto Him when you are at your lowest. It also means you are willing to trust His way of comfort, rather than your own. I am writing this message not only to you, but also to myself. May we not lose hope that even as God is calling many of our loved one’s home, we can thank God for those of us who are still here on earth, that His comfort towards us is sufficient. I want to share ten scriptures with you to meditate on when the nights feel long, and the tears keep coming. I pray these scriptures will be a source of hope and strength even in your weakness.

“Surely there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off.” Proverbs 23:18
“For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” Romans 15:4
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.” Romans 14:8
“And whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?” John 11:26
“A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3:4
“To proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn.” Isaiah 61:2
“Then young women will dance and be glad, young men and old as well. I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.” Jeremiah 31:13
“Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Remember even in this holiday season that the joy of the Lord is your strength. Your situation, circumstance and even grief may not feel joyful, but the joy of the Lord is your strength. The joy of His faithfulness, sovereignty, love, grace, and mercy is your strength today and forever. May that joy comfort you, prosper you, bless you and sustain you this Holiday Season and beyond.

Carenda Deonne

Speaker/Author/Certified Stress Management Coach

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Stress Less Starting NOW!

Even though stress is not normally considered a mental health problem, I do believe according to www.Mind.org, that stress is connected to our mental health in several ways. Remember, stress is layered. It affects us mentally, physically and emotionally. As you know stress can cause mental health problems, and it can make existing problems worse. As a certified stress management coach, when thinking about mental health and how to stay serene in turbulent times, we cannot forget about how stress affects us.

According to a study at www.MentalHealth.org, 51 percent of adults that felt stressed reported feeling depressed, and 61 percent reported feeling anxious. Of the people that said they had felt stress at some point in their lives, 16 percent had harmed themselves and 32 percent said they had had suicidal thoughts and feelings. Just because a person is dealing with stress doesn’t mean something is wrong with them. What is important is how we handle stress and replace bad habits with better ones.

It is important for me to help individuals alleviate stress because I believe everyone has been created for and in purpose. I want to see men and women maximize their full potential an embrace their purpose without feeling unworthy. I don’t want stress to stop you from experiencing those wins and victories in life.

When I had poor stress management, I experienced insomnia, anxiety, hair loss and unhealthy fluctuations with my weight. One scripture I kept close to me during that time and even now is Matthew 6:34 that says, “Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Not only did I depend upon this scripture, but also, I implemented some life changing stress relief techniques, and I want to share them with you too! It’s time to stress less starting NOW!

One simple way to relieve stress is get sun before 11 a.m. This is important because it will increase levels of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that affects our mood, cognition and memory. When serotonin is increased, we are more focused, creative and a joy to be around.

A second way to relieve stress is give and receive hugs, because they are so powerful and an immune booster. They also help to reduce stress and decrease depression, so start hugging.

A third way to relieve stress is by speaking affirmations that shift our energy and mindset to see the bigger picture instead of focusing all our time and energy on the situation we are going through. It helps to see the rainbow through the rain.

When thinking of stressing less, try increasing endurance. When we have bad habits, it weakens our endurance and our ability to be effective. It is dangerous to bottle up stress. What people may not understand is that we can look good on the outside, but we also feel things happening inwardly. When we know that something isn’t right, our heart is having palpitations and shortness of breath, and we are not sleeping well—that is a layered effect. Taking care of yourself and your mental state is a serious matter.

Stress in the black community is also high! There are so many things that we have to face in our communities, and there are times in which we feel like we are alone, we are isolated, and we’re the only ones going through it. Or we have this ego or pride that tells us even though we know we need to reset or reach out and ask for help, it’s like I’m superwoman or superman.

One of the things my mother, grandmother, and auntie would say is, “It takes a village to raise a child”, but it also takes a village for a community to thrive. One of the things we must do is ask for help and know that it’s OK, it doesn’t make us weak or incompetent. We have to be open to receiving, sometimes that’s hard for us because we’ve had to work so hard to get the things that we have. We also have to be open to various professions of people that can aid and provide help and resources — whether it’s a life coach, a therapist, or a counselor. We have to be able to talk to someone, open up, feel safe, and be flexible in our ability to give and receive.

So, my question to you is what stressors are you dealing with currently? Remember, when alleviating stress, the goal is not how well you can multitask, but do you have healthy habits and routines in place to deal with stress. Take care your mental health, including the stressors in your life!

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Until Next time, Stress Less Starting NOW!

Carenda Deonne

Author/Speaker/Life Coach

Are You Listening?

Welcome October!

When my Pastor, Dr. Clifford A. Jones, Sr. is preaching his sermon, he tends to say, “Are you listening?” I noticed he does this when he is going more in depth through scripture and examples within his sermon. When he is describing a certain situation, or giving history based on scripture, it’s important to him that we are in tune to what God is saying and how we can make the word applicable to our lives.

Throughout my journey and continual faith walk as a Christian, I do believe that we serve a God who speaks to us. The question is, are we listening? What I love about God is that He may speak to us individually or collectively. He also may use different ways to speak to us such as music, dreams, people, and visions. He knows us so distinctly and knows what it will take to get our attention.

There are times He will even send us warning signs and tests to speak to us when we need to seek, surrender and or repent from ways that are not pleasing to Him. No matter how God decides to speak, the bigger question is “Are you listening.” Are you taking notice of, or giving your attention to His Lordship? As for me, the Lord uses visions when speaking. Just recently I had a vision and I want to share it with you.

In this vision I was using all my energy and strength to hold a door. On the other side of the door was an ocean of water. I was so afraid that the water was going to rush in and cause a flood and drown me. With all my natural ability I kept holding the door. Water began to come through the bottom of the door. When I looked down, it was up to my ankles. However, I noticed that the water was clear, pristine and to my surprise very warm.

The next voice I heard was that of the Lord, and he said, “Back away from the door.” I knew to back away from the door meant I had to let go, and trust God as well. It also meant something else that I will share a little later in this writing. Nevertheless, I did not murmur, panic, or negotiate with God. I took a couple steps back and the door opened, and the water began to flow in. However, the water did not flow in as a rushing flood, it was peaceful and gentle in nature. Before I knew it, the water was lifting me higher and the last thing I saw in this vision was me floating on top of the water with my hands stretched out to the side and smiling. It was refreshing and joyful lacking the presence of fear or death. I had more freedom and life after I obeyed God, by backing away from the door, as opposed to using all my energy and strength to keep it closed.

When I opened my eyes, I was speechless. The vision was so real, but there was one thing that boggled me. In the natural, I am terrified of water. I do not know how to swim; let alone float. I could not understand why God would use what I fear most to illustrate something so powerful concerning my life? Then I remembered in my recent devotional it said, “Many instructions that God will send to you for your destiny lifting will never make sense at first instance.” I so agree with that. I could not shake why God would illustrate His purpose and plan by using what I fear. It was not making sense to me. The Lord told me to continue to mediate on that vision, and I did.

I remember speaking about it to my hair stylist and my husband. Both confirmed that God was sending increased blessings and lifting me to a higher level in purpose, but I must listen when He is speaking and not be afraid to move when He says move. My husband went on to say, “Don’t be your own stumbling block.” I remember the Lord sharing with me, through continued mediation, that I saw the water as a reflection of drowning, flooding, and death, but He saw it as a reflection of elevation, restoration, and overflow. This also reminded me of the scripture that says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9.

The other thing God revealed to me, in that vision, is that trust is layered. We not only must trust the God in whom we serve, but we also must trust the God who lives inside of us. When the Lord said, back away from the door, I did so in obedience and trust. But once I backed away from the door, I also had to trust the God who lives inside of me for whatever was coming next. Are you listening? Your current place, and what’s next in your life, come with trust and obedience to God and the God that lives inside of you!

God is speaking so boldly in this fourth quarter of 2022. He is releasing strategy, creativity, and wisdom. He has much to say, and much to reveal. He has much for you and me to do in the land of the living. The question is, “Are you listening?”

Carenda Deonne

Speaker/Author/Certified Stress Management Life Coach

Stress Less Starting NOW!

http://www.carendadeonne.com

The Wisdom Factor

Happy September! We are truly in a season where wisdom is essential. Some of us are dealing with tremendous warfare. Even as I pray and fast this month, it is most urgent for me to learn how to lead a quiet life, even on the battle front. Some of us are feeling on edge. Some of us are dealing with increased temptation. With so many demands, pressures, and stress all around us, we must pray for increased wisdom. Not only must we pray for wisdom, but we must also pray for understanding. Let’s look at one of my favorite scriptures, Proverbs 4:6-9.

Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;
    love her, and she will watch over you.
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    Though it cost all you have,^[^b^] get understanding.
⁸Cherish her, and she will exalt you;
    embrace her, and she will honor you.
⁹She will give you a garland to grace your head
    and present you with a glorious crown.”

When we look at verse six, we understand that wisdom is something that we can not forsake or abandon. Why, because wisdom will protect you; it will keep you safe from harm or injury; mentally, physically, and emotionally. When we walk away from wisdom, we welcome selfishness, disobedience and worry! When we have wisdom, it will lower our blood pressure, give us peace during a storm, and calm any anxiety. There are many reasons why someone might forsake wisdom but remember, when that happens you open yourself to a vulnerable state of instability.

I can’t help but think about some decisions I made in life, and how the spirit of ignorance and pride was more evident, as opposed to wisdom. I wanted things my way, and if I can be completely transparent, there were times when I felt God needed my help. However, once I repented and started seeking the wisdom of God, so many things in my life pivoted in the right direction. Not walking in wisdom placed me in bondage. However, walking in the wisdom of God has given me great liberty. Remember, when you embrace wisdom she yields protection, and when you love wisdom, she will watch over you! If you take a moment to pause, wisdom will speak and provide insight in every area of your life. What I love about wisdom is during times of turbulence and unsettlement, wisdom will lavish calmness, stability, and serenity.

I love that the bible is very clear and commands us to get wisdom. There is not another option suitable enough. It doesn’t tell us to try it, buy it, or think about it. No, it says, “Get wisdom.” That encourages me not to see wisdom as an option, but as a lifestyle. I also love the bible because it teaches us in James 1:5 “if anyone of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” How loving is our Heavenly Father that tells us to get wisdom, and it we lack wisdom; all we need to do is ask. I don’t know what life situations you are currently facing, but I want to encourage you to rise up, and GET WISDOM!

I have also learned that It’s necessary to surround yourself with others who have wisdom. Let me give you an example on how the wisdom of my father, Jerry O. Pittman, has impacted my life. For those of you who know me personally, you know that I am a true daddy’s girl. My dad and I frequently have deep conversations, and he said to me one day, “I hear you talk about your testimony on how God brought you through two failed marriages, and I am grateful that He did, but as your father, I desire that your testimony does not end there. I also desire for you to testify to a happy and healthy marriage. I desire that you not only testify to how God brought you through, but how God brought you up!” That was the best wisdom my father has given me, and I will carry it with me for the rest of my life.

He planted a seed to remind me no matter what I face in life, hold on and hold out. Don’t let your testimony end on just how God brought you through something, but also how he brought you up to a higher level in your purpose. Thank God for His grace that today I can testify being in a healthy, and blissful marriage. If I can go a little deeper, it also made me think, if this was the desire of my earthly father, how much more are the desires of my heavenly father!

I just want to encourage you today to hold on and hold out! I want to encourage you that there is more to your testimony! Continue to seek wisdom. Let wisdom elevate you. Let wisdom honor you. Let wisdom build you. Let wisdom exalt you. Don’t go another breath living your life without wisdom. I promise you, if you ask for wisdom, get wisdom and honor wisdom, your crown will be filled with priceless gems.

Carenda Deonne Beamon

MA in Law/Certified Stress Management Coach

http://www.carendadeonne.com

Tap Into the Limitless Supply of God!

Welcome August! I wanted to take a moment and share a message from Dr. Bill Winston. When I received this letter, it truly blessed me, and I pray it will do the same for you. I want to highlight several things throughout the letter that is sure to build your faith. The foundation scripture is found in Isaiah 57:15. The Message Bible States, “A message from the high and towering God, who lives in Eternity, whose name is Holy: “I live in the high and holy places, but also with the low spirited, the spirit-crushed, And what I do is put a new spirit in them, get them up and on their feet again.”

Dr. Bill Winston opens the letter by stating, “Eternity is not how long you live as some have thought. It Is the realm of the supernatural; where the laws of time, space and matter are no longer the boundaries of the believer. We the church, are living in eternal life NOW, not when we go to heaven. When we get a revelation of this, working miracles become as normal as breathing air.” Wow! I have to say, when I read this for the first time, I had to take a seat and ask God to widen my understanding. As I continued reading the letter things started becoming clearer. Let’s go a little deeper

Dr. Bill Winston continues to say, “Jesus was constantly showing his disciples that they could live this eternal life Right NOW…living above the natural laws of this earth. Through faith, they could operate from this higher realm by supernaturally turning water into wine, walking on water, speaking to storms, cursing unfruitful fig trees, healing the sick, and even raising the dead-instantly. When we access eternity by faith, we are empowered to command this planet and everything in it to line up with Heaven’s original blueprint.” I don’t know about you, but wow that was a powerful revelation for me. Do you recognize that there is an original blueprint from Heaven that will cause the earth and everything in it to come into alignment when we walk in our God given authority, by FAITH!

When the disciples walked in this authority, Heaven’s blueprint was manifested on earth through the manifestation of walking on water, healing the sick, raising the dead, etc. It made me think are we really walking in the authority that God has given us? Reference John 14:12 when Jesus told the disciples, “Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.” Dr. Bill Winston went on to say, “The earth we to be a copy of heaven. It is waiting to hear the commands of its Creator through his designated agents, the sons of God, which are you and me.” Please reference Matthew 6:10 “Thy kingdom come, thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.” My goodness, this is a revelation that we must take time to process. If we only depend on and operate from the earth’s supply, we will be limited. However, if we access by FAITH God’s supply through heaven, we are limitless!

In summary, Dr. Bill Winston expresses that we must understand that faith rules over time. He states, “Your faith now dictates the time and the desired outcome of what you will have and when you have it.” He goes on to say, “You can’t see time and get a miracle. Our life is no longer to be governed by the laws and limitations of the earth but by the laws and limitless supply of the Kingdom of Heaven.” I hope you would agree with me that it is time for us to tap into the limitless supply of God, consistently!

In addition to understanding that faith rules over time, Dr. Bill Winston also expresses that we must renew our mind, and trust that the world needs us. He states, “A key to unlocking the supernatural and living in eternity now is that you must first know who you are and your purpose for being here.” I agree with Dr. Bill Winston when he said, “You are a distributor if the solutions and provision that God has already laid up in heaven for the earth and suffering humanity.” I hope you hear me; Heaven has the blueprint! Heaven is not in kayos or disarray trying to figure out what’s next, what’s new or what’s coming. For heaven, its already settled. Its time for us to stop limiting ourselves through the limitations of this world, but with confidence access the limitless supply of God by walking in our God given authority, by FAITH! I don’t know about you, but I am ready to walk in the limitless supply of God – NOW! This is a great time to give God thanks, that Heaven has the blueprint, and that blueprint will NOT fail us!

Walking in the Ezra Anointing,

Min. Carenda Deonne

http://www.carendadeonne.com